stress

As I previously mentioned, as of late, Crew has not been going to sleep perfectly. Before, probably around 2-3 months, he would wake up, I would feed him, we would play, then once he showed signs of being tired (or a couple hours passed by), I would just lay him down in his bassinet and he would fall asleep. It was SO easy!

A little after 4 months, he started this whole thing where he needs to be fed before he wakes up AND before he goes to sleep. Makes sense, he's getting bigger and needs more food. BUT, everyone knows that its a cardinal sin to nurse a baby to sleep and when he needs to eat again before the nap, he gets very sleepy. I tried to feed him like an hour before he goes to sleep and he just cried and cried like he was starving, so I would nurse him and he would fall asleep.

On the positive note, once he was asleep in my arms I could just lay him in the bassinet and he would be fine. BUT the main goal is to try to get the baby to go to sleep in the bassinet. Not be tricked into it.

So I've been pretty stressed about this. Do I not know him as well as I used to? Now he doesn't fall asleep when I sing to him or sometimes even when I hold him. The crying really gets to a mom too.

sidetone: [we tried the whole cry it out thing a couple weeks ago and it totally didn't work, he never fell asleep. We decided he was too young for that.]

Ive decided to stop trying to be the perfect mom. If i hold my baby so he doesn't have to cry and cry in his bassinet, I'm sure he will be okay. I doubt I'll have to hold him for him to fall asleep when he's 22.

The less stress he and I have, the better. That feeling of distress when he is crying just isn't worth it when we can both be happy if I give him what he wants.

This is not going to be my motto forever, but for now I think a 4-5 month old baby should get what he wants.

sidenote 2: [we are waiting to give him anymore solids because of the AAP standards to wait until 6 months, also when he tried solids it didn't make him sleep any better.]

03.10.17